Do you Want People to Like You? Say These Words

Words to Use That Will Get People to Like You More


If you want to build long-lasting relationships with others it is vital to watch what comes out of your mouth.

First impressions are an important thing if you want to make a ignite a strong relationship with someone. Of course, you can try to dress better, read more so you can come up with interesting topics when conversing with someone, and make sure that your online presence is respectable, because often people rely on what you communicate about on the internet before meeting with you (I know you have “Googled” someone  after meeting them).

I grew up and was raised with using “niceties.” Not everyone requires them, but it is always best to err on the side of kindness in communication.

Truth: Sometimes the things you say will make a greater impact on your impression than the things you do. To ensure yourself that will give a good first impression there are some word that you shouldn’t forget to use when you are meeting someone for the first time.

Words That Will Make People Like You:


“Sir and ma’am Miss”

Make sure that you act with good manners the first time you meet someone because this will make you stand out. “Hey you” is not acceptable.

When you use these titles you show respect for the person you addressing. It is important to use these words when conversing with people you don’t know well you and/or if they are older or more experienced than you. Research shows that “ma’am” is the appropriate choice, however personally it makes me feel like an old lady and I’m often thrown aback when I hear it – “Miss” will do just fine thank you.   However, there are certain regions in the United States as well as globally that the use of “ma’am” is more common and natural. It’s good to be familiar with the common terms used in the environments you are visiting.


“You are welcome”

When you use some of the more simple expressions that people use more and more these days instead of saying “You are welcome” it may change the message. Using “You are welcome” indicated that you have done something to deserve someone else’s thanks, but if you use “No problem” it indicates that it wasn’t a big deal. If you use “You are welcome” you show that the favor you did for the other person was worthwhile which sends a strong message.


“How can help?”

Nobody can accomplish anything without getting the help from somebody else. Offering your help to do even the easiest thing that there is to be done leaves a positive impression about your personality. The person that you have done the favor will be grateful to you and may even offer to help you with something that you really need some help with.


“I believe in you”

Words of encouragement can be a massive shot in the arm. Everybody needs a push once in a while to inspire them to work harder and achieve more. These four words have a huge impact both for the person you will be encouraging and for their feeling towards you.


Please and thank you are the most basic word that you must never forget to use when you want to make a good first impression. Saying these words are a sign that you are a polite and well-mannered person. This will work to your benefit, because people you express niceties are more appealing when they communicate good manners.


I can’t emphasize the importance of thinking before you communicate with others.   Yes we are all different and have different expectations when expressing our selves or others are addressing us. However, it is a good practice to do two things:
1. Think before you speak.
2. Err on the side of kindness by going that extra mile in your communication, especially if you have a new or developing relationship.


Often things you say make a greater impact on your impression than the things you do. –  Ellie Parvin



About Ellie Parvin

Ellie is a Communication Consultant, Professor, Speaker, Writer, Mentor, Coach and has a passion for motivating and inspiring others by sharing her insight, expertise and lessons learned. She loves to teach and is a Communication Professor, as well as a Fitness instructor. She teaches Business Communication, Media & Culture, Public Speaking and Academic Writing. Ellie is obsessed with the way people communicate and how various personal and environmental factors can alter the perception of information/message/meaning delivered and received between those in communication. She received her B.A. in Journalism from San Francisco State University and M.A. in Communications & Organizational Leadership from Gonzaga University in Spokane, WA. Published Thesis: Critical Theory and Gender Communication Studies in Small Organizations.

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